Copper IUD: Do You Really Know How It Works?
Many women walk into the doctor’s office already decided.
They’re looking for contraception and specifically ask for the copper IUD because it’s hormone-free.
There’s this strong sense, almost relief, that they’re making the safer, cleaner, better choice.
Like:
“I don’t want hormones. I want the natural option.” “Copper feels safer.” “At least this won’t mess with my body.”
And they’re often reassured:
“You’re right. There’s nothing to worry about.”
and I can’t help but wonder, do we really know how it works in the body?
The story women were sold goes like this:
“Copper is toxic to sperm, but completely safe for your uterus.
Your body adapts. Side effects are normal. Don’t worry.”
But when I slow it down, it falls apart logically.
Let’s talk about sperm for a second
Sperm are not weak little things.
They are:
Designed to survive acidic vaginal pH
Navigate cervical mucus
Evade immune cells
Travel all the way to the fallopian tubes
Compete with millions of others
They are literally built for hostility.
So when something is described as toxic enough to reliably disable sperm, yet somehow “harmless” to the surrounding tissue for years…
My brain goes: wait… what?
Now, this is my personal logic talking 😅
Because if you search anywhere on the internet, you’ll find the same message over and over:
“It’s safe for women.”
“There are many studies.”
“Women continue to use it.”
So I mean… who am I to question it, right? lol.
But still it has never sat right with me, and it probably never will.
How can something be toxic to a cell that comes from a human body, but not toxic to cells from another human body, just because they’re a different sex?
Maybe that makes me a rebel 😌
But I’ve always been one.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth
The copper IUD is not harmless to uterine tissue.
It works because it:
Creates chronic inflammation
Increases prostaglandins continuously (ongoing inflammatory signaling), which leads to stronger uterine contractions, more pain, and heavier bleeding
Activates immune cells
Alters the uterine environment continuously
Medicine doesn’t deny this, it just reframes it.
Instead of saying:
“This device works by irritating your uterus long-term”
It says:
“The uterus tolerates it well** in most women”
However, ladies…. 30–50% of copper IUD users report significant side effects such as heavier bleeding, stronger cramps, pelvic pain, iron deficiency?especially in the first year.
So… is it really surprising that when it’s removed, many women feel like their cycles are all over the place?
And this is where women were gaslit
Heavy bleeding? Cramping?Pelvic pain? Iron deficiency?
We’re told:
“That’s expected”, “That’s normal”, “It will settle”, “Your body adapts”
But think about how insane this sounds in any other context:
“Yes, the device causes inflammation, pain, bleeding, and immune activation but because many women endure it, it’s considered fine.”
Endurance was confused with safety.
Who sold this idea?
Not one villain. A system.
A medical model that prioritizes pregnancy prevention over female comfort
Research historically focused on efficacy, not lived experience
A culture that normalizes women’s pain
And a quiet expectation that women should “put up with it” for the greater good, to keep men comfortable!
Women weren’t encouraged to ask:
What is the long-term cost of this adaptation?
What does chronic inflammation do over years?
Why are side effects minimized instead of questioned?
Because questioning them makes people uneasy
And honestly?
There aren’t many clear answers.
Almost everywhere you look, the message is the same: “It’s safe for you and your uterus.”
But it’s hard not to wonder:
How can an environment be toxic to sperm… but completely harmless to the uterus?
The explanation usually given is this:
Sperm are single cells and are much more sensitive, The uterus is multicellular, has repair mechanisms, immune regulation, and tissue turnover, so it can tolerate inflammation better than sperm can. Ok ok thank you… but still… chronic - not acute- inflammation is not good for anybody!! In most areas of medicine, chronic inflammation is something we try to reduce, not maintain.But when it comes to the uterus, because it’s considered “resistant,” we accept keeping it chronically inflamed, who is that really serving?
So yes, this is public, and let me be very clear.
I’m not here to pull anyone away from any decision about their body or what they choose to put in it.To each their own. Truly.
My goal isn’t to scare, shame, or persuade, it’s to share information and ask questions that often aren’t encouraged.
Everything above is based on how this device actually works, and yes… ok, maybe also a little bit of my point of view 😜
You’re allowed to choose.
And you’re also allowed to question.
Both can exist at the same time. Right?
If you’ve had your own experience, questions, or doubts, you’re not alone.
Come talk to me on Instagram.
Dxoxo
It Took Me 30 Years to Realize I’m an Introvert
Yes, call me silly, disconnected, judge me, whatever you want lol but the truth is, it took me YEARS to realize it. And not just a little introvert… I’m extremely introverted. Let me tell you why.
I had no idea that being introvert or extrovert has nothing to do with whether you talk a lot, are outgoing, or can start conversations. It’s actually about energy, how you recharge, how you come back to yourself, how you feel connected and grounded. We are all energy. Our minds and bodies are surrounded by it, constantly moving in and out of us, and that “flow” is necessary for our wellbeing. When we don’t understand how we personally restore that energy, that’s when problems start. Anxiety, depression, burnout… all of it.
So here’s me, explaining why I always thought I was an extrovert… and how wrong I was.
I love talking. I really do. Anyone who knows me knows I don’t shut up at dinners or gatherings lol. I can talk to strangers easily. I actually enjoy starting random conversations, whether we have anything in common or not. Deeper conversations depend on chemistry, of course, but in general, I’ve always been outgoing.
I’m not shy to speak up, I’ll say something if someone cuts in line (unless they’re elderly and can’t stand long lol). I like meeting people. So obviously… I thought: I’m an extrovert!
I used to go to any gathering I was invited to, if I was free, I went. I talked, laughed, hugged everybody, had fun. I didn’t host parties at my place, but besides that, my social life looked exactly like someone who recharges with people. So in my head, that confirmed it: proud extrovert.
But here’s what I didn’t notice: I also had SO much alone time back then. I didn’t realize how much of my energy came from those moments alone because I always had easy access to them. I lived with roommates my whole life, but always had my own bedroom. If I needed to disappear, I’d go to my room, close the door, reset, recharge. I did this automatically. I never thought of it as a need, it was just something I did without thinking.
Then… boom.
Everything changed when my second baby came into my life, one of the loves of my life, my little master teacher.
This is not about how chaotic motherhood is (that’s another blog lol). But mothers know: time becomes tight. Time alone becomes almost nonexistent unless you fight for it. And I didn’t realize HOW MUCH I needed it. I didn’t know that not having that space, literally a room by myself, organized, quiet, would make me crumble slowly.
And yes, I talk to myself out loud sometimes, make expressions, mumble things… maybe I’m crazy, I don’t know lol. But I need that space. And I didn’t know I needed it until I was close to breaking.
Before kids, it was so easy. I’d feel pressured at a party → I’d leave.
Next day someone invited me out but I wasn’t feeling it → I’d say no.
If I needed to recharge, I just did it. I had a room. Privacy. Silence.
Now… I have three boys and a husband who is the MOST extroverted person I know. Nothing wrong with that, being introvert or extrovert is not better or worse. It just means we recharge differently.
My husband recharges with people. When he’s tired or low, he needs social interaction, meaningful conversations, his close circle, or me. Not in a needy way, just who he is.
Me? I need to be ALONE. No kids, no husband, no dog, no one breathing next to me lol. And not just 20 minutes of scrolling my phone. I need actual alone time.
It took him years to understand why he couldn’t sit silently in the same room as me while I “recharged.” I love him, but no, I need solitude, real solitude.
Slowly, without noticing, I stopped recharging.
Work → kids → tiny bit of free time → spent with my husband (because I love him and he needed it) → repeat.
Every day. Every week. Every year.
And I wondered why I felt off.
My husband wasn’t doing anything wrong, he needed his wife to recharge, and I thought I didn’t mind because… well, I thought I was an extrovert! I thought social time would make me feel good. But it wasn’t working anymore.
I kept building up stress, overstimulation, frustration… and didn’t know why.
Then one day I was venting to a friend about how overwhelmed I felt. And she casually asked, “Have you tried going to the library like we used to?”
Because back in nursing school, when I felt uneasy, she’d invite me out and I’d say, “Let’s go to the library.” I'd grab a private study room, sit alone, read, be silent, be with my thoughts. She’d go to a separate room. Then we’d meet up later feeling human again.
I told her, “No… every time I go now it’s with my boys. I don’t go to be alone anymore.”
And she said, “Girl, you need to go do your thing.”
Do my thing?? What thing??
But that stayed in my mind.
Then I started tracking my cycle, journaling more during my luteal phase, reflecting on my emotions… and it hit me:
I WAS NOT RECHARGING.
Because I am an INTROVERT. And I didn’t even know it.
That’s why I invite every woman to practice cycle awareness, journaling, introspection. It forces you to look inward and understand yourself on a deeper level.
If you’ve made it this far (lol bless you), you might think, “Come on, everyone needs alone time.”
Yes… but this is different.
For an introvert, introspection is not optional, it is NECESSARY.
It’s medicine. It’s grounding. It’s how we restore the energy that keeps everything else in balance.
And understanding whether you’re introverted or extroverted can genuinely change your life. It brings clarity. It brings compassion. And it brings balance.
I hope my story makes you pause and ask yourself:
How do YOU actually recharge?
The Power of the Menstrual Cycle and How to Talk to Your Daughter About It
God didn’t give me daughters, He gave me three amazing sons. And even though they’re boys, I know that one day I’ll talk to them about the menstrual cycle too, in a way that makes sense for them, with respect, understanding, and truth. Because everyone benefits when we break the silence and speak openly about our bodies.
But today, this is for the girls and for the mothers, aunties, and big sisters raising them.
Even though I don’t have daughters of my own, I do have something I wish I’d had:
The knowledge I’ve gathered over the years about how powerful, wise, and meaningful our menstrual cycle really is. I wish someone had told me these things when I got my first period.
I was lucky to have my mother by my side that day, and I know she did her best. But honestly, she didn’t even know half of what I’m about to share, and I don’t blame her. Most of us were just told something like, “Congrats! You might have some cramps, but there are pills for that. Here are some pads or tampons, or maybe a menstrual cup if your mom was open-minded. And the most important thing; now you can get pregnant. Like that’s all our period was about.
No one taught us that this moment is a rite of passage, a monthly rhythm that can guide us, ground us, and connect us to ourselves in the most beautiful ways.
So I want to invite you: please, teach your daughter early. Teach her what her menstrual cycle really is. That it’s not just about bleeding or the ability to have babies, it’s about understanding her body, her emotions, her power.
Below, you’ll find a letter, one you can read to your daughter when she gets her first period… or even later, if the moment has passed but the conversation hasn’t happened yet. It’s never too late to tell her the truth about her body, her cycle, and her strength.
Please share this with anyone you think might need it.
With love,
Day
Dear Daughter
Your body is starting something really special, it’s called a menstrual cycle. That means every month, your body follows a natural rhythm, like a clock, that helps you grow, stay healthy, and feel in tune with yourself. Learning to understand and track this cycle is a powerful way to take care of your hormones. It can help you feel more balanced, not just now, but as you grow up and make choices about your life, school, career, relationships, and even becoming a mom someday, if you want to. It’s like learning your body’s secret language and it can guide you in amazing ways.
There are four parts to this cycle, kind of like seasons:
Menstrual Phase (Winter) – This is when you get your period, the first day of bleeding marks the beginning of your cycle. During this time, your body is resting and resetting. You might feel like being cozy, quiet, or simply taking it slow.
Follicular Phase (Spring) – After your period, your body starts to get new energy. This is a great time to try new things, be active, and have fun. You may feel more excited and curious.
Ovulation (Summer) – This is the middle of your cycle, when your body releases an egg. You might feel super social, confident, or like connecting more with people.
Luteal Phase (Fall) – Your hormones start to shift again, and you might feel more emotional or want some alone time. That’s totally normal. Some days you might feel a little moody, and that’s okay, it’s your body’s way of asking for rest and care.
The main hormones involved are:
Estrogen – gives you energy and confidence.
Progesterone – helps you feel calm and sleepy.
LH and FSH – they help your body release an egg and get the cycle started.
This is not just about getting a period. Your period is one part of a bigger cycle that affects your whole body — not just your uterus or ovaries. These hormones (they’re like little messengers in your body) are going to rise and fall each month, and they help guide how you feel, how much energy you have, how your brain works, and even your moods. Some women might say it's a burden, but it’s not. In fact, it’s the start of a super power. These hormonal fluctuations, which make up your monthly cycle and can be learned and tracked, can actually offer a powerful way to guide you through life. They can help you become more creative when needed, more intuitive, give you more energy when necessary, and remind you to rest when it's time. It’s like having your own secret map to help you navigate life.
So if some days you feel super happy and other days you feel like crying for no reason — you’re not broken! It’s just your hormones doing their job.
And the more you learn to listen to your body, the more you'll understand what it needs — whether that’s rest, movement, creativity, connection, or quiet. This cycle isn’t something to be ashamed of or hide — it’s something to be proud of. It means your body is wise, capable, and full of potential.
You’re entering a new chapter of life, and while it may feel a little strange or even confusing at first, just know: you’re not alone. Millions of women have walked this path before you — and here I am to help guide the way.
This is the beginning of something truly powerful.
With love,
[Mom or your name]
P.S. Always remember: your cycle isn’t just about your period — it’s about your power. 💛
Zion or Bryce National Park?
I’ve been asked this question many times — and it’s not an easy one to answer.
If you’re visiting the state of Utah and don’t have time to visit both parks, you’re probably wondering which one to choose. You might be going back and forth, checking out pictures of both, mesmerized by their beauty, unable to make up your mind. I don’t blame you if you can’t decide. It’s a tough choice. Both parks are spectacular, but hopefully these thoughts will help you choose easily.
Zion National Park in the Summer
If you’re visiting Zion in the summer—especially in June, July, or August—be prepared for two things:
Major crowds and extreme heat!
The best way to try and avoid both is to get up early. Really early. Don’t arrive after 8 a.m. Finding parking becomes a nightmare, and the shuttle lines get long fast. As you may already know, part of Zion is accessible by car, but much of it is only reachable by shuttle. I still remember those long shuttle lines, standing in the heat, waiting, and then getting on a packed bus. They don’t waste an inch of space lol.
You can drive all the way to the park and catch the shuttle from there to the trailheads (just keep in mind that parking is extremely limited, and arriving after 8:30 a.m. might mean spending hours circling). Or you can park in Springdale, the nearby village. Parking there is also limited, and you’ll still need to take a shuttle into the park. If you’re staying or parked at the southern end of the village -where the shuttle route begins- you’ll likely get on quickly. But if you’re on the northern end, by the time the shuttle gets to your stop, it’s often full, and you could be waiting a long time just to board.
One thing that always impresses me is how well organized and clean the national parks are, not to mention the dedication of the park rangers and their love for nature. But with the staffing shortages this year, I can’t imagine how Zion will handle the crowds. If fewer shuttles are running due to short staffing, I’d seriously reconsider visiting in the summer. Try another time of year if you can!
Also, Zion is significantly hotter than Bryce due to its lower elevation. If you don’t handle heat well, you’ll probably feel more comfortable at Bryce.
That said, if you're planning to do The Narrows, you’ll at least escape the heat - not the crowds though. The start of the trail is always packed. But walking between the canyon walls with your feet (and legs) in the water is incredibly refreshing.
If you're traveling with small children who don’t do well in the heat or with long waits, Zion might not be the best option in summer.
Now, if you're planning on hiking Angels Landing (and I assume you're not going with young kids), and that trail is non-negotiable for you then your decision is probably already made.
Bryce National Park
Bryce, to me, feels unique and magical. It is as beautiful as Zion.
Since it’s at a higher elevation, Bryce doesn’t get as hot as Zion. It’s also less crowded, and the entire park is accessible by private car, no need for shuttles. That’s a huge plus when traveling with kids, especially if one is in a stroller.
If you’re planning to camp, some campgrounds at Bryce are first-come, first-served and don’t fill up as quickly. Even if you arrive a little later in the morning on a weekday, you might still snag a spot. That would be impossible at Zion in peak season.
The hikes in Bryce are unlike any other. The hoodoos - those thin spires of rock - come in a stunning range of colors: orange, pink, yellow, red, and white. The way they cluster together along the plateau’s edge is just breathtaking. There’s truly no other park quite like it.
I personally enjoy slow travel. I like to really soak in the moment and the experience of every place I visit. That’s why I don’t recommend trying to visit both parks at once. Also, I have three boys who would never let me do that anyway, lol. But I know people who have done both in one trip and had a great time.
As for me, I’d lean toward visiting Bryce over Zion in the summer. And if you decide to do the same, I don’t think you’ll regret it.
Happy travels!
Not sure how to begin your Journey?
There’s no denying the powerful influence of hormones. Nearly every aspect of our life is touched by them—from growth, metabolism, and sleep patterns to your mood, energy levels, and even how you think and act. When hormones are in balance, your body runs smoothly. But when they’re out of sync, it can feel like everything is off.
Many people believe they have little control over their hormones, but the truth is there are simple, effective steps you can take to ease the impact of hormonal changes and restore balance naturally. Here’s how to begin your wellness and hormone balance journey:
1. Set the Intention & Recognize the Signs
The first step is setting up a clear plan and becoming fully conscious of what’s happening in your body. Symptoms of hormonal imbalance—such as unexpected mood swings, emotional rollercoasters, night sweats, bloating, and more—can be overwhelming. You really have to want to make this change for yourself.
It’s important to acknowledge that change isn’t always easy. Incorporating new habits into your life can be challenging, especially when you’re faced with triggers or external stressors. But if you set your mind to it, you can absolutely do it.
2. Take It Step by Step
Sustainable change often happens little by little. Start small. Replace old habits with healthier ones, and remember that building new routines takes patience and perseverance. Picture yourself living with inner peace—calm, clear, and confident.
The goal is not to constantly fight against your emotions or feel out of control at the slightest trigger. Instead, you want to achieve equilibrium. When you are in balance, your surroundings and your relationships often follow that same harmony.
3. Nourish Your Body with Food
Nutrition is a cornerstone of hormone health. Focus on:
Whole, nutrient-dense foods
Healthy fats (avocados, nuts, seeds, olive oil)
Minimizing processed foods and sugars
Your food choices can either help or hinder your hormone balance, so fueling your body well is key.
4. Prioritize Rest & Recovery
Your body needs time to heal and restore. Make quality sleep and stress reduction non-negotiable parts of your routine. Simple practices like deep breathing, meditation, and gentle movement can ground you and keep stress hormones like cortisol in check.
5. Seek Guidance & Support
Every journey is unique, and having support along the way makes a world of difference. As your wellness nurse, I’m here to help you navigate each step with personalized guidance and encouragement.
Balancing your hormones naturally is a journey of self-discovery and healing. Remember, you have the strength to create meaningful change—one step at a time. When you find your balance, you’ll not only transform your own well-being but also positively impact those around you.